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Tips on Moving with Kids

Posted on: October 1st, 2020 by admin

Anyone who has every gone through the moving process know how stressful it can be.  This can be even more true for children going through the process. Some of the same things that can help make moving less stressful for us can help your children as well. In addition, there are certain things you can do to make the journey to your new home fun and enjoyable for kids.  The key to many of these tips is keeping the kids involved and informed.

Talk About It

As soon as you know that you will have to move, let your kids know.  Delaying the information does not help anybody.  The more time the kids have to process the information, the better.  Make sure you have a face to face conversation with your children and give them your full attention so you can answer any questions they have.  Let them know about their new neighborhood, schools, sports teams, etc.  If you have pictures of any of these, use them.  Anything that you can do to put a positive spin on the move will make it less scary and more exciting.

Pack It Up

As hard as it can be, let your kids help pack, especially their room and their belongings.  Depending on the child’s age, watching all their things get packed up in boxes can be scary and confusing.  Start packing as soon as possible to keep that task as stress-free as possible.  Let them help label their boxes with a special label or color-coded system. Most importantly, keep important sentimental items like favorite blankets, special toys, or anything that provides comfort out of boxes and in an overnight bag for your kid instead.  Having easy access to these things can make the first night in a new home a little less scary.  The last thing you want on your first night in your new home is having to look through tons of boxes for that stuffed animal your child can’t sleep without.

Stay Positive

Kids see and absorb much more than we give them credit for.  When they see us acting stressed out and upset during the moving process, they will likely feel the same.  If, instead, you try to make everything as fun and positive as possible, they will follow suit. If you are moving into the Seaside Park real estate market, tell them all the great things that will be close by for them to enjoy. While keeping the kids involved as much as possible is a good thing, there are certainly times when it will be easier for them to not be involved.  If you know packing up all your fragile belongings is going to take some time and might be stressful for you, call a sitter or try to do those tasks while the kids are in school.  It not only gives the kids a break from packing and being in a home filled with boxes, it will let you focus on the task at hand and get it done much faster.

Let Your Kids Make Some Decisions

Moving is something that can make kids feel completely helpless. It can seem like everything is happening without them and they can’t do anything to stop it.  One way to alleviate some of this is to let them make some decisions.  Whether it is what restaurant you’re going to eat at or order from your first night in your new home or picking a color for their new bedroom, any decisions your kids can help with, let them.  Another great tip is if you have a floor plan of your kid’s new bedroom, let them decide how they want their furniture arranged.  Giving your children control over some things can help reduce their stress which makes moving more enjoyable for everyone.

Moving Should Be a Family Affair

If you recently purchased a home in the Ortley Beach real estate market, it should be easy to be excited about your move.  The more you talk to your kids about moving, the less scary it will be.  While it is going to be a stressful time for most adults, it doesn’t have to be the case for your children.  Just as your realtor sold you your new house, you need to do the same thing for your kids.  Sometimes fear and anxiety can manifest in behavior changes so the more people that are aware the better and healthier for your child. Be sure to tell others involved in your kids’ lives like teachers, clergy, and friends’ parents that you are moving so they can provide support to the child as well.  Moving doesn’t have to be all scary and stressful.  It can be fun and exciting.  If you do it as a family, it will be beneficial for all of you.